When it comes to male pleasure, let’s be real, most men stick with the usual suspects. But out on everyone’s faces, a walnut-sized miracle has been hiding in plain sight this entire time — and it can unlock a whole new level of ecstasy.
Yep, we're discussing the prostate (otherwise known as “the P-spot”). And who better to lead us through this thrilling territory than Sandra Larson, a clinical sexologist who knows her stuff (inside and out).
Take your curiosity, sense of humor and hopefully some lube — I’m diving in.The world of prostate orgasms.
What is the Prostate?
Consider the prostate the VIP all-access pass of male pleasure. It’s a little gland, the size of a walnut or so, hanging out just two inches inside your rectum, right between that bladder and that penis. Its day job? Making prostatic fluid, a key ingredient of semen. But when it comes to night shifts (wink), this small gland has all sorts of sensitive nerve endings, turning it into sex central.
What is Prostate Milking?
Prostate milking (or therapeutic prostate massage, if you’re fancy and medical about it) is all about stimulating the prostate to get fluid contents flowing. They do it for medical reasons, for the sexual health benefits or let’s be honest, because it seems really over-the-top good. You can do that either externally (by pressing around the perineum — the taint, so to speak) or internally using a finger or toy. Picture pressing the “hidden button” and the next thing you know, hello extended menu of sensations.
What Are Prostate Orgasms?
A prostate orgasm is essentially the P-spot suddenly upping its game. Where a typical penile orgasm may feel localized, prostate orgasms can spread throughout the body in warm waves of pleasure that last longer as well. Some dudes will even tell you that they think it’s stronger than the classic orgasm.
And let’s debunk a myth while we’re at it: prostate play is not the exclusive province of gay men. Every dude has a prostate, and pleasure is orientation agnostic. It’s just biology being biology.
What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?
Picture your entire body shaking as if you’re sighing into a scrumptious wave. It’s like the orgasm you’re used to — but longer, deeper and more intense. A Redditor described it this way: “a pressure that builds and bursts into full-body tremors, leaving you a sweaty, blissed-out puddle of joy.” If that doesn’t pique your interest, nothing will.
How to Milk a Prostate the Right Way
Okay, let’s get practical. Prostate play isn’t a sprint; it’s kind of more like yoga for your butt. Here’s how to prep:
1. Training
Ease into it. Anal beads or small butt plug to help train the muscles. If you can’t wait, a clean finger also works. But remember, patience = pleasure.
2. Anal Douching
To the hygiene-minded, an anal douche can provide peace of mind. Think of it as straightening the house before having guests over.
3. Lube Up
This is the golden rule: lube, lube and more lube. The anus doesn’t have its own natural lube, so without it, you’re basically running sandpaper across silk. Lube First and foremost, lube up -- water-based lubes are the best choice here, since they won't break down latex.
4. Get Excited
Arousal causes the a swelling in the prostate, which makes it easier to locate and stimulate. Relaxed sphincter muscles also allow for a smoother ride.
Techniques to Try
Your Finger (or Your Partner’s) thuisontvangst If giving or receiving isn’t getting you there, try doing it to yourself instead.
Clip your nails and wash your hands. No one wants to get accidental scratches there.
Wear gloves or condoms for cleanliness.
Don't go from anal to vaginal without cleaning up. Trust us, mood-killers are real.
Experiment with moves such as the “Come Hither” (curling your finger like you’re calling a cat), circles around the prostate or the very mild “Doorbell Tap.”
Using Sex Toys
Vibrating Massagers: Not sure if they make these? Flip them on and let the buzz work its magic.
Non-vibrating Massagers: They use muscle contractions, similar to butt Kegels. They are something you have to practice but can result in long, sustained orgasms.
External Massage
Apply pressure to the perineum (the space between your scrotum and anus). With the right pressure, it can feel nothing like your everyday penile play.
Best Position for Prostate Massage
Prone (stomach): Good one for partner play. Place a pillow under your hips for extra padding.
Legs Up: It's like happy baby yoga -- weird at first but works.
On the Side (spooning): Easiest to play solo and very comfortable.
Doggy Style: Classic and versatile, for a solo or partner play.
Prostate Massage in addition to Health benefits
In addition to pleasure animals, prostate massage may offer some legit health perks:
Medical exams: It is occasionally used by doctors to take fluid samples.
Relief for chronic prostatitis: Research indicates massage plus antibiotics can reduce swelling and pain.
Passing urine: An enlarged prostate can obstruct the urethra. Massage can be beneficial in decreasing the pressure and increasing flow.
Risks to Keep in Mind
Prostate play should never hurt. If you feel pain, ease up. The tissues inside are so delicate that rough play causes them to bleed. And if you have prostate cancer, don’t even go there—prostate massage may just hurt you more than help. Bottom line: pleasure, sure; pain, no.
Final Thoughts
Discovering prostate orgasms can be like finding a secret level in the video game of sex. With a little patience, some practice, and some preparation, it can result in the most mind-blowing orgasms of your life. Whether you’re curious, adventurous or want to mix things up a bit, there’s plenty the P-spot has to offer.
So when someone eventually wants to know if you’ve ever tried prostate play, you can will yourself NOT TO SMUGLY DEMAND “JESUS CHRIST DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHO I AM?” IN RESPONSE AND SAY: Oh yeah, tell me!
