Science based guide to female pleasure and G-spot
For a lot of people, sex ed is porn, not science or frank talk. The result is misunderstanding, pressure and a female pleasure that is horribly misunderstood.
Studies demonstrate that only around 65 percent of women say they orgasm during sex, while a whopping 95 percent of men report the same. Well this doesn't mean that women are complex. It reveals that there are so many people who don’t understand how the female body functions.
Now let me simplify this for you. When you know about anatomy, stimulation, and communication, pleasure becomes more relaxed, easier and more enjoyable for both parties.
People refer to the whole area as a vagina. That is not correct. Quit calling it the vajayjay: The exterior section is known as the vulva.
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The vulva includes:
Every woman looks different. The labia minora are of differing sizes, shapes and colors. Totally within the normal realm.
Now we can talk about the clitoris. This is the seat of female pleasure.”
The clitoris is positioned above the urethra and opening to the vagina. It is only a small fraction of what you see outside. Most of the clitoris is hidden inside. It comprises two inner legs which embrace the vaginal canal.
Today's science has shown the clitoris to have more than 10,000 nerve endings. That’s more than double the number of nerve endings in the head of the penis. It took researchers until the last decade to confirm this fact.
The clitoris and penis come from the same tissue in a fetus. They are of different constitution yet sprang from a common source. Both become engorged with blood during arousal. Both become firm and sensitive.
If you know what feels good on a penis, you’re people halfway to understanding female pleasure.
Male arousal often happens quickly. The average man is capable of having sex within five minutes.
Female arousal takes longer. For peak physical readiness, most women require 15 to 45 minutes.
During arousal:
And if penetration occurs too quickly, it hurts. The body requires time to get ready.
Moisture is not the same as desire. Hormones, stress, hydration, age and medications all contribute to lubrication. A woman could be horny, for example, but not get wet as easily as she’d like.
Using lubricant helps. It is primarily for comfort by reducing friction. Cooking the rolls over medium heat ensures they’re as smooth and comfortable for sex as possible.
The G-spot is often spoken of as though it were a kind of magic button. This notion brings pressure and fear.
The G-spot is named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, who discovered it in the 1950s. He talked about a sensitive spot inside the vagina.
The G-spot is actually not one spot. It is a spot that is inside the vagina an inch or two in on the walls of the front end.
This area includes:
The female prostate is known as Skene’s glands. They are derived from the same tissue and secrete PSA.
When few women get a lot of pleasure from this area, yes. Others feel mild sensation. Some feel discomfort. All answers are normal.
If you would like to visit this zone:
This is not a treasure hunt. Focus on feedback.
Squirting is frequently presented in porn as evidence of pleasure so powerful that the rest of your body releases liquid. This creates unrealistic expectations.
Between 10 and 54 percent of women have experienced squirting at some point, according to studies.
Research has found that the liquid released when squirting includes diluted urine, and is mixed with ejaculate from Skene’s glands. It contains prostate specific antigen. The fluid is clear, and often has no odor.
Squirting is not a measure of sexual prowess. Some women squirt. Others never do. Neither outcome measures pleasure.
Pressure to squirt creates stress. Stress reduces arousal.
The female orgasm lasts some 10-60 seconds.
During orgasm:
These contractions take place about every 0.8 second. The body engages fully. Mental focus narrows. Distraction disappears.
The strength of your pelvic floor affects how strong the contractions feel. Communication is still the most direct way to verify orgasm.
A lot of problems flow from haste and poor communication.
It was mistake one, treating the clitoris as if it were a button. Sudden, high levels of pressure can be painful to abrupt. Start gentle. Increase only if welcomed.
Mistake two, fast repetitive thrusting. The most popular combination is a variety of pressure and rhythm.
Error three, changing strategies during the peak build. If she returns the same signal, press on with it.
Mistake number four: You only focus on the orgasm. Pleasure means the entire experience, not just climax.
Mistake five, ignoring feedback. If she takes your hand, do what she does.
Mistake six, rushing to penetration. Arousal takes time.
Mistake seven: Believing sex is about how you perform. Focus on her experience.
The Psychological Aspects of Female Pleasure
So contact in itself doesn't give you an orgasm. Mental safety is a big part of it.
For many women, this feeling is what researchers call spectatoring. It does so when the mind skims performance rather than serenading sensation.
Thoughts such as:
These thoughts interrupt arousal.
You help by creating reassurance. Let her know you like having sex with her. Show patience. Express desire without pressure.
Foreplay can begin hours before sex. A supportive text. Sharing chores. Gentle affection. All of this develops emotional preparedness.
Sex improves when stress decreases.
Practical Steps for Better Intimacy
Schedule time together with no pressure to orgasm.
Focus on exploration.
Use all senses.
Explore areas beyond genitals:
Pay attention to breathing patterns. Here is where faster breath usually indicates increased arousal. Move straight to the point if she does not, dwell on it a bit more if she moves toward you. If she pulls away, check in.
Consistency builds intensity.
Sex gets better the more you pay attention and practice. Biology creates desire. Skill creates satisfaction.
The partners reporting the greatest satisfaction have three habits in common:
When you approach intimacy as a learning process, the improvement comes.
Female pleasure is not mysterious. Time, attention and knowing it.
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