Fine, now lets go to the engine room Not the one in your car — the one in your pants. Everyone has heard the locker room talk, the braggadocio, the gossip. However, the ancient belief is that libido is all about testosterone. But the idea is, the more T you have, the better you feel, right?
Only time will tell, but one man's amazing life tale has his fellow humans wondering if the action is really happening upstairs in the addition, instead of downstairs in the glands.
I came across an account written by a 70-something year old dude that was so brutally honest and interesting that it derailed everything I thought I knew about sexual desire.
This is not clinical; this is a full-throttle human experience, and the stories gleaned are very meaty.
The Testosterone Myth: The Tank Looks Low But the Engine is Still Running
Our raconteur gets right to the point. He feels “lucky” that he has had such a long and protracted sexual life that would leave most needing a nine-day nap. I mean, we got very lucky… like ten times a day through the first couple of years kind of lucky. The cherry on top? And his wife shared a corresponding high-octane libido. Talk about a power couple!
Understandably so, as doctors and friends alike zeroed in on one very apparent culprit: testosterone levels through the roof. It’s the usual suspect. However, life, as life is known to do sometimes, had other plans. When measured, during that period of extreme stress, his testosterone levels were lower than they had ever been. So low that he was placed on testosterone supplements.
Here is the kicker though: his low T made him feel "off" and foggy brained in general, but did NOT affect his libido. That longing, though, never faded, never dimmed. The supplements combined with some other stuff helped with the other symptoms, but the libido? It was powered by its own proprietary Operating System.
His conclusion? Sexual appetite is more of a mental aspect than physical at this. Until then the software was overwriting the hardware.
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The Mind — The Greatest Aphrodisiac (and Party Starter)
And here's where things really get interesting. Now in his 70s and facing several health challenges, his schedule has become a still-impressive 2-3 times per week. Yet, at best, the mindset change means everything.
On a good day, he might go two times in one sitting. But even when the environment changes, such as swinging friends or one of his wife’s friends comes by, the mental cue flips the switch. Just as the desire strikes, and he is out of the starting gate, cumming again and again and that feedback loop of enjoyment is forged amongst all participants.
This isn’t just a one-off. He recalls in "40s a Gangbang Group" how his wife achieved a sort of legend status with this group, becoming a "screw machine" and "a total sex hog," or so he said. This was not a case of discontent, but simple, raw, bliss. Actually, she just loved sex so much she couldn't stand to see a cock left standing.
The climax of this whole scenario is so insane, perhaps not comprehensible, however, it demonstrates the strength of the brain. They were driving home after a weekend of heavy activity together with 27 men he had allowed to use his wife. Driving past an exit for a well-known nudist beach, she turned and asked, Would you be mad if we got a couple more dudes? I'm still really horny.”
That was when an impromptu detour happened and nine additional men joined in the action. That was enough to drown out the idea of tired muscles and bodies from the thought of an all-consuming force in our heads — the buzz, the excitement of a new environment and the idea of it all.
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So, What’s the Science Behind the Vibe?
You will find that this delightful anecdote aligns well with what many sexologists and psychologists might tell you when it comes to sexuality; context is king.
The Coolidge Effect: A famed biological cliché found among numerous species, in which males (occasionally females) become physically rejuvenated and sexually invigorated when introduced to others to mate with, despite having exhausted themselves with the previous mate. That rush our narrator was feeling with some fresh faces around? Textbook Coolidge Effect in action.
Your brain—not testosterone—handles the how: Testosterone has a role in laying the groundwork for libido (general interest in sex), but the details of the desire—the who, what, when, and where of lust—are the domain of the brain. Letting a major player into the mix: dopamine, the neurotransmitter we associate with reward, motivation, and novelty. When you have a new partner or an exciting situation then all the dopamine skyrockets, and your entire being says, fine, screw being tired, this is fun.
More Psychology, Less Biology: Our stress, mood, relationship satisfaction and sense of self are all huge drivers of desire. Even if your hormone levels are spot on, you could still be so stressed, anxious, or unhappy that you simply do not feel like enticing a sexual grateful. Or, you can have lower levels but be so mental turned on by a situation or a partner that your body happily to be a fellow follower.
The Tragedy of Buzzkill and A Life Well-Lived
But it does address the all too familiar bummer of the fun police. Beach Closed While Hiking Lake to a nude he describes where consenting were sexually people through the free act — because and lake, those deliberately to be at a place to a little were in the interest of those his the and do from search about to be more and, diatribe began work environment line we now have tree, preserve place is to engage an about a grotesque shock — “disgusted someone others. Each time it happens, it serves as a painful reminder that more than anything, shame and narrow-mindedness are the two biggest enemies of a healthy, happy sex life.
But what comes through overall in his account is not exasperation; it is sheer appreciation. “Trust me, I have had an amazing exciting sex life,” he says. His only complaint? That it’s gone by so fast.
The Bottom Line
So, what’s the takeaway from this incredible tale? Stop obsessing over your testosterone levels as the sole measure of your virility. Sure, they’re important for overall health, but they are not the entire story.
Your libido is a powerful cocktail of biology, psychology, and context. It’s about connection, novelty, excitement, and a positive state of mind. It’s about finding a partner (or partners) who match your energy, whatever that energy may be.
So nurture your mind, communicate with your partners, seek out novelty, and protect your joy from the wankers of the world. Your engine might just surprise you with what it can do, no matter what the gauge says.
What do you think? Does this ring true for your own experiences? Let us know over at Forplu.com – a place where we talk about all things life, love, and the pursuit of a good time, without any of the nonsense.
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