Okay, let’s stop the awkwardness: if you’re married, curious or horny, read on as we try anal sex. Well done for taking it seriously before the fun. This present guide is written for human beings (as opposed to robots). It collects everything Tim and Sandra told us based on practical experience---but it has been tidied up and placed in a logical order, and all of the rough bits kept. It’s humorous, realistic and written with tender loving care in such kind that you will not go into this completely blind.
This article is for consenting adults who trust one another. It deals with comfort, communication, good work, vibrant health, joy, and love. You will get ways to get ready, the inaugural date’s method, cleaning tricks (including douching), lubricant decisions, best positions for beginners and a human first-time story written by a human being in plain English that you can really use. — ForPlu
But why try anal sex at all? Master hacker Zabrine says,
People try anal sex for a variety of reasons: novelty, a different sensation (either increasing or lowering), and prostate/g-spot stimulation or --they’re where the fun begins--just to shake up their sex life. For some couples it becomes a favorite bedroom activity; for others, it is a once-in-a-rarewhile curiosity.
The key is it’s an option --not required-- and like sex of any kind, it’s best when everyone is really up for it.
Some people feel that anal play is powerful in a way penetration through the vagina-business isn’t because the anatomy and nerves are different. It can be pleasurable. But it also means having to prepare for it more carefully than with other kinds of sex and needing patience to enjoy. Don’t rush.
Is anal sex safe?
The short and straight answer: Yes---if done right.
Safety revolves around certain key points:
Lubrication: The anus doesn’t lubricate itself. Use plenty of high-quality lube so there will be no tearing or abrading.
Condoms: These are necessary when a partner is new/unknown or when you are switching from anal to vaginal sex ( you can never go straight from one to the other without cleaning).
Gentle technique: Slow, calm and communicative is better than hard and fast every time.
Hygiene and STI protection: The anus has bacteria and its tissues are delicate--condoms and cleaning help minimize risk.
If either you or your partner has any anal or rectal health problem (hemorrhoids, fissures, recent surgery), you should consult a doctor before attempting anal penetration.
Before you start the do's and don'ts of anal
Talk about it -- before, during and after. Ask about fears, limits and the safe word (or signal) if you're in the moment itself.
Consent is everything -- if anyone hesitates, relieve the pressure and don't force it. No means no; a dubious 'yes' still means go slowly.
Start small -- fingers, little toys and much lube make for an easier passage.
Stop if it hurts -- there is discomfort, and then there is pain. Communicate and pause if painful situations develop.
Preparation: food, cleaning and consciousness
Eat Light
One or two days of lighter meals will reduce the chance of an unpredictable bowel movement during play. It's not foolproof, but certainly helps.
Cleaning: shower vs. douching
Cleaning the outside is imperative. Internal cleanliness (douching) is a preference--many people rely on it for their peace of mind rather than out of necessity.
If you do decide to douche, then follow good guidelines:
Use plain water or normal saline (purified water + a teaspoon of salt). Avoid harsh additives.
Keep the temperature of the water the same as that on a warm bath--neither too hot nor too cold.
Be gentle-insert slowly, squeeze gently and let it flow out naturally into the toilet.
Don't overdo it-over-douching can promote irritation of the thin nasal lining tissue in the earliest stages. Once before sex is enough; do not do this daily.
If you are uneasy about having a douche, a hot shower and good external cleaning will do for most people.Lubes - Which to Use?
For anal play you want a thicker and longer-lasting coating.
Two possibilities emerge most often:Water-based: safe with condoms and sex toys, and easy to wash off. Modern formulas can be very slippery and long lasting. Suitable for most couples.
Silicone-based: lasts the longer such feeling of silk; wonderful for long sessions and water play.
Note : silicone lube can degrade some silicone toys so be sure to check compatibility.
Avoid anything with strong warming or numbing agents-beginners may find desensitizing gels helpful to allay their fears, but they also have the potential to mask pain signals you should pay attention to. If you try a desensitizer, use it sparingly and be sensitive to any discomfort.
Start slow: Toys, fingers, and techniquesLet the body get used to the idea before taking it to penetration.
Finger play: A well-lubricated finger (a glove can be worn over it if you like) is a traditional first step for the beginner. Go slowly and let the muscles relax.
Small plugs or intermediate toys: Butt plugs allow the anus to become accustomed to something inside it without pressure from a thrusting penis.
Oral and other stimulation: During anal play, do clitoral or penile stimulation too. This way it's easier to reach orgasm and the whole experience stays enjoyable.
Take deep breaths, relax and if someone has stagefright--pause and talk.Best positions for newcomersPosition matters when it comes to depth, angle and communication.
Here are some good choices for beginners:
Spoon-soft, intimate and shallow. One of the easiest ways to start is trying slow, controlled beginnings in this position with your partner is : greeted by caress or touch is low{S}
Doggy (modification) — receiver lowers upper body onto the bed or a pillow; giver controls pace and angle. Good alignment for prostate/G-spot contact, but check in often.
Cowgirl (receiver on top) — receiver controls depth and rhythm; excellent for people who want agency.
Missionary with legs raised — receiver’s legs on giver’s shoulders or waist curve the back and can make entry easier.
Regardless of what position you’re in, prioritize communication and quit if it starts to feel off.
How-To: Step-by-step with User Instructions
- Key point: before penetration. Make out, touch, drive the other erogenous zones’ value.
- Make plenty of use of lube. Apply some to the entrance and the object (finger/ toy/penis).
- Start on the outside. Use a lubricated finger to gently massage your o-ring, encouraging it to relax.
- Ease into the position slowly. Start with a small finger or toy, wait for the muscles to settle, then move to penetration or insert a larger item.
- Pace over power. At first, short, shallow movements are more comfortable than deep thrusts.
- Rotate types of stimulation (clitoral, oral, and penile as you like) to make for a better experience.
- Check in often. "How do you feel?" should become your point. Have words agreed upon if talking is tough at the moment.
- Clean between orifices. Never go from rear to front without a wash or a new correlative.
Nice things after anal sex
Afterplay is important. Take a shower together, cuddle, and review what did and didn't work with your partner. Anal stimulation may elicit emotional reactions if something goes wrong—find out what’s happening more kindly and curiously, not defensively.
Essentials for douching (if you choose)
The right fluid: use clean water or isotonic saline solution; avoid irritants and very hot or very cold water.
The right equipment: use a douching kit.
The right speed: be gentle. Squeeze slowly, hold for a moment, and then let go.
Limit frequency. Once in the day of sex is enough. More can offend.
Be patient. The time it takes for water to evaporate from your body systems is long; hang around a toilet until sure all done.
Don't use laxatives to "prep" -- they bring more stuff to be cleared and can make you crampy.
And yes: sometimes despite best efforts "shit happens." Clean up, laugh, and move on. No need for drama.Common worries (and how to deal with them)
"Will it hurt?"
It can for beginners--take a break. If everything is lubed and going slow, then start again.
"Will it make you loose?"
No, the sphincter is a muscle; no consensual, gentle anal play is going to permafuck it.
"Is it dirty?"
It's from your body, so yes there are bacteria. That's why hygiene, condoms, and preparation matter. Use common sense and respect.A real-life first-time snapshot (sanitized, human, honest)
Tim and Sandra’s first time was ordinary and human: dinner, a relaxed bath, and then an honest curiosity. They used plain lube and did not forget artificial aids like: fresh towels, condoms, clean lubricant applicators or any other paraphenalia where it could do good. Wrong: find it bloody difficult. The first moments did bring queer feelings (at times it felt like needing a poo - nothing wrong with that), but with reassurance, gentleness and good communication turned into an intimate, memorable experience that brought them closer together.The take-down from this story is simple. Don't be caught up in boasting instead of admitting error.
Relax.Now a quick checklist before giving it a whirl
✅ Both partners want this
✅ Right lube at hand (and spare)
✅ If needed, condoms also ready
✅ Clean area and towels handy
✅ Plan regular pauses and check-ins for mutual consent
✅ Toys/toothbrush in their clean cases if used
✅ Take into account aftercare (shower, cuddle, chat)
Final notes — True rather than preachy
Your sex life may be greatly enhanced by having anal sex. It's up to you. For example, some nice straight couples are enthusiastic about it; others try it several times and then drop it. There's nothing wrong with being different. However, it is important to have respect: respect for the body, respect for limits, and respect for one another.
If you have any doubts about physical issues, don't hesitate to contact your doctor. And remember to smile. Sex has to be perfect to be good! But it must be consensual and joint.
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