Let's cut to the chase. There are many different descriptors here that can complicate the situation of dating a transgender woman but really dating a transgender woman isn't the social puzzle some make it out to be. You need to know what to do with a woman, and if you do, then you are already 99% there. The other 1%: Don’t be a creep. So, let's get honest about how to do it right.

Step 1: Put Your Self in Amnesia (NO KIDDING)

The single most important rule? Forget she's trans. Just wipe it from your mind. You're dating a woman, period. Anyone obsessing over the trans part comes off as creepy as shit.

Trans women are not the manifestation of a fetish, or a kink, or a science video that got too popular after hours. They’re people. As one cited example succinctly puts it: "We're human beings, not sex toys."

Just treat her like any other woman you're attracted to. Flatter her fashion style, make her chuckle and show you really interested in her personal life. Do the normal dating stuff.

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Don't Be a "Chaser"

A chaser is someone who goes out of their way to pursue trans women, almost as if they are chasing a fantasy. This is the quickest route to be shown door. She will detect y our half-assed interest in her trans status right off the bat.

Which is why I love the way our journey man puts it: "First and foremost, I am a woman and that's how I want to be treated. If you cant, fuck off, clogging up my veins."

Take note of the human, not the label.

When to Actually Talk about It

All right, so when does it come up? Only when it comes to the heavy petting It's not exactly a first-date discussion.

It's up to you to pull them aside for a few minutes away from the crowd and have a polite, private discussion when you're getting close (and I mean, sexual intimacy, not, uh, two close friends meeting). The objective is for both parties to feel at ease, not to investigate each other. Even something clear, "I want to make sure I am doing right by you, is there anything I should know?" works perfectly.

Let her direct the conversation about her body and her boundaries. Every person is different.

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The Bottom Line

At the end of the day, it comes down to this — She is a woman. Be as respectful, kind, and excited for her like you would any other date. If you create a bond, the rest will do itself.

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