Practical dating advice focused on respect, comfort, and honest connection
Let's cut to the chase. It can get tricky with all the different descriptors here but dating a transgender woman really isn't the social puzzle some make it out to be. If you know what to do with a woman then you are 99% of the way there The other 1% — Don’t be a weirdo. So, let's just be real and go about it the right way.
The single most important rule? Forget she's trans. Just wipe it from your mind. You're dating a woman, period. The fact that someone would obsess over the trans part just seems creepy as shit.
Trans women are not a fetish, a kink, or a science video gone viral after the watershed. They’re people. As one of the cited examples puts it so succinctly: "We are human beings and not sex toys."
So just act like you would with any other girl you find attractive. Compliment her style, make her laugh and show that you care about her life. Do the normal dating stuff.
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Don't Be a "Chaser"
So, a chaser is somebody who actively seeks trans women, as if you were chasing your prey. This is the fastest way to get yourself shown the door. A woman who is trans is going to know immediately if y ou are only pseudo, half-assed, or not really interested in her trans identity.
And my favorite way our journey man describes it is this: "First and foremost I am a female and that's how I want to be treated. If not then sod off clogging up my arteries.
One human-thing to remember is when you are about to label someone.
OK, so when it comes up. Except when it deals with the heavy petting It's not really a first date conversation.
When you're approaching (and I mean physical fucking, not, um, close friends meeting), it is your responsibility to take them aside for a few minutes out of sight of the audience to have a respectful, private conversation. The point is to be comfortable with each other, not to interrogate each other. But also something clear, "I want to be doing right by you, is there anything I should know? works perfectly.
In other words, let her guide the discussion whatever relates to her body and her limits. Every person is different.
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At the end of the day, it comes down to this — She is a woman. Be as respectful, kind, and excited for her like you would any other date. If you create a bond, the rest will do itself.
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