On this page, I want to share with you some great techniques for getting rid of premature ejaculation so that you can last longer in bed and enjoy a better sex life.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation or early ejaculation is when a man reaches orgasm and ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would like. This can create tension and frustration in the bedroom if the man’s partner is not brought to orgasm and can lead to anxiety and depression for the man himself. This anxiety can put the man under a lot of pressure to perform better, which can lead to premature ejaculation occurring more frequently creating a viscious circle that is difficult to break.
It’s Completely Natural
The first thing you should understand is that it is completely normal and natural for a man to ejaculate quickly. Ejaculation is a reflex action and it is beneficial for the evolution of all species to procreate as quickly as possible before a predator or competitor can interrupt. Humans are the only species that desire sexual intercourse to last longer.
The natural instinct to ejaculate quickly is reinforced during adolescence when a young man often finds it necessary to masturbate or have sexual intercourse as fast as they can to avoid the embarrassing act of being caught. Traumatic sexual experiences during youth and being raised in an environment where sex is considered wrong can also condition men to be quick during sexual intercourse in later life.
So, if you are suffering from premature ejaculation, there is nothing inherently wrong with you – in fact, premature ejaculation is acytually ‘normal’ ejaculation – and everyone can learn to last longer by practicing the exercises and techniques below.
Short Term Quick Fixes
There methods in this category are designed to provide an immediate solution to premature ejaculation problems – you can even try them out tonight!
The downside is that they are temorary quick-fixes that don’t tackle the underlying root causes of the problem. Although they can make you last longer in bed, they can also take away some of the enjoyment and stimulation that sexual intercourse offers. For this reason, they are not recommended as long-term solutions (see the next section for more permanant cures) but for now they can help you to satisfy your partner, which will reduce any anxiety that your bedroom performance may be causing.
Breathing Technique – when you feel that your orgasm is close, take a deep sharp intake of breath. This can suppress the ejaculatory reflex temporarily allowing you to continue for longer.Stop-Start Technique – when you feel your orgasm is close, withdraw your penis and continue to stimulate your partner with your hands or mouth. Re-penetrate when the feeling has passed.Shallow Penetration Technique – instead of thrusting deep, try thrusting shallower and faster. This can reduce the stimulation you are feeling whilst keeping your partner stimulated.Squeeze Technique – when you feel that your orgasm is close, withdraw your penis and squeeze the head. This desensitizes the penis and suppresses the ejaclatory reflex. Focus Technique – think about something completely unrelated to sex such as your shopping list, a maths problem or even count backwards from 100. Focusing your mind somewhere else can help make you last longer.
Long-Term Solutions
The techniques in this category offer more permanent solutions that won’t stop your enjoyment of sex, however they require practice and so take longer to implement.
Prolonged Masturbation – put some time aside to masturbate on your own for between fifteen minutes and an hour. Set yourself a target for how long you want to last and if you feel yourself approaching orgasm before this time, stop immediately, then continue a minute or two later. After you have reached your target, allow yourself to ejaculate. With time, try to increase the duration of your masturbation sessions. As well as teaching your body and mind to last longer, the fact that you are on your own reduces much of the anxiety and pressure you may feel when you’re with your partner.Kegals - Kegals are an exercise named aftert the doctor that invented them. They are designed to exercise the muscles around your prostate gland, which can give you more control over when you ejaculate. Exercising these muscles simply requires you to tense and contract them as often as you can. Actually locating the muscles can be quite difficult. Perhaps the best way to recognize them is to force yourself to stop urinating after you have already started. The muscle you feel between the base of your penis and your anus are the ones you should exercise.
Summary
It is also worth knowing that no man satisfies his partner every single time. Sometimes you or she won’t be in the right mood or frame of mind to reach orgasm and this is entirely normal. Talking openly about sex with your partner can also be beneficial when you have bedroom problems because it releases many of the pressures you may have put on yourself with regards your performance.
