Of course. This is a shorter, more writerly version of the article that maintains a human tone and important moments.

It's OK to Flirt with a Married Woman?

Let’s rise above that noise and ask a question on everyone’s mind: Is it acceptable to flirt with a married woman?

The short answer? Yes, it can be. But — and this is a big but — it’s all in how you do it. By which I mean, harmless ego-trip banter, not attempting to break up a home.

Why It Feels Good (The Science Bit)

Not only is flirting fun; it’s good for you. It awakens a cocktail of feel-good hormones in your brain:

Dopamine: The reward chemical that makes you feel amazing.

Serotonin: The natural mood booster that battles anxiety.

This combination is like a legal happiness free drug. It will brighten your moods, both of you.

The Draw: It’s More Than Physical

There’s a reason why men are often attracted to married women. After the age and experiences a woman goes through, she often starts to shine with newfound confidence. She’s comfortable, self-assured in who she is, and articulate. This self-assurance is incredibly attractive.

What’s In It For Her?

It’s not a one-way street. After years of being “mom” or “wife,” a woman can feel invisible sometimes. A bit of respectful attention can be a potent reminder that hey, she’s still seen as sexy and interesting. It’s a validation that can actually give her confidence elsewhere in life.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

This is the big one. Flirting is the best, but only if these rules are followed:

Keep it Light & Public: You can casually compliment her at a social gathering. Late-night DMs are not.

Compliment Her Smarts, Not Just Her Assets: You’re so funny,” is better than“You’re hot.”

Watch How She Reacts: If she looks uneasy or pulls away, STOP IMMEDIATELY.

Zero Expectations: This is an amusing event not the start of a Harlequin romance.

The Bottom Line

Sure, flirting with a married woman can be okay. It’s a meaningless little flirtation that makes both participants feel good — if it’s done with respect and zero ulterior motive.

But if your motives are anything less than pure, the answer is a hard no. Don't be that guy. Be chill, be smooth and get the difference.

This article was originally published at forplu.com — your destination for making sense of the modern dating world.